|ADOPTION: A Family Choice
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EXTREME HOME MAKEOVER- No, not
us, we haven't even applied. But, we
were able to see the house of a family
in Corvallis, Oregon, as it was being
built by Extreme Home Makeover.
Jessica sung for one of the stars.
|Edith is now 11 years old, and will be
entering the 6th grade this 2013 Fall
term.absolutely loves to dress up. She is
my girly girl (so fun). She has several
princess dresses, and this is one of her
favorites (whichever one she is wearing is
her favorite one). I shop at places like
Value Village and Goodwill, weekly, and
find some wonderful dress-up clothes,
toys, and school clothes for the kids. She
just lost her first front tooth a few
minutes before I took this picture.
Jessiah, who is now 9
years old, is our
|Ok,Jessiah at 3 years old!! This is
Jessiah's version of "Hide & Seek." He
was pretty happy with his hiding spot,
LOL. He is now 8 years old, and can
find the best spots to hide.
Layke, on the left, was 8 in this picture,
now 19. Greg was 5 years old, and
now is 15 years old.
They are so happy to be with each other.
Our three little ones, (2000):
McKenzie, left, then 2 1/2 years old, now
14, Faith then 5 years old, now 19,
and Layke then 4 years old, now 18.
Joy, is 20
years old. She is
beautiful, a bit spoiled,
& determined to make a
mark on this world in
spite of having Cerebral
Palsy. She arrived home
in June of 2002. She is
a songwriter, and hopes
to go into the musical
field, or go to law
school. She goes to
Lane Community College.
1998: picture of some of my kids. This
is Marie, 9, Faith,3, Layke, 2, and
Caleb, 4 1/2. This has gotta be the
"REAL" Santa, don't you think?
is a page of pictures of our
family...obvious, I know, but I needed
to fill in this space.
|Mckenzie Now is 17 years
old, and is Faith, Layke, Greg,
Edith and Jessiah's birth
sibling. She is a Junior in High
|Caleb was born in Korea,
and has Tuberous Sclerosis, and
a brain tumor. I share my fears,
my frustrations, my anger, my
faith, my hope, my joy. It's a
long page, though!! He is 21
|Brooke is 31 years old,
born in Korea and has
Cerebral Palsy. Brooke is
now a mom to my darling
Greg is now 15, as of July
2013. He will be a freshman
in High School
|Guinn Is from the Phillipines, and is
now 33 years old. He has a shunt for
hydrocephalas, is developmentally delayed,
and works at Goodwill.
|Mark, is 33 years old,
has Down's Syndrome, and
had heart surgery for a
complete AV canal (heart).
He knows everyone in town
and works at Lane
|Lucille is 34 years old,
has Down's Syndrome and
repaired cleft palate &
lip. She loves her work at
Dairy Queen AND a
|Adult Kids who are now "On Their Own":
|Lynn is now 20 years
old and was born weighing
only 1 pound 4 ounces!! She
has a part time job at a
jewelry making store, and is
living in a wonderful Adult
Group Home. She is getting
more independent, and has
a job she loves.
|Allen, our 17 year old son. We
adopted him when he was 3 1/2 years
old, and he had many handicaps such
as: totally blind and deaf, profoundly
retarded, and he had hydrocephalus,
seizures and Cerebral Palsy. He had the
face of an angel. He is now one of
God's angels. He died when he was
about 17 1/2 years old.
Mom's Writings. Some of the things are: What
to do when you have a child in the hospital,
How to help the transition from foster home to
your home, and just various adoption and large
We were awarded the Honorary Child
Advocate Award by an adoption agency.
I/Mom spoke for a few minutes, and Marie
sang a song. I posted my "speech" on my
Award Speech Page.
Today is now July 8, 2014. The last time I updated it was a year ago. It seems like 10 years ago. I couldn't figure out
what I am doing wrong, though. Words, sentences, paragraphs were NOT coming out like I saw them on the editing
page. I finally changed the font to Verbana, and it seems to be working. I use Windows explorer to view, and Yahoo!
SiteBuilder (2.8.4) to do the editing.
The above picture is no longer current. The only one missing is the photographer, my son John. Oh yes, and Marc isn't
here...he was at a Special Olympics practice that day. This picture actually includes my daughter, Anne and two of my
grandchildren, Caleb and Maryn. We had such a great time at the coast. We visited one of our favorite Oregon beaches,
which has the neatest tide pools, and is relatively easy to get to. We did have to carry Joy down to the beach,
(she uses a manual wheelchair),but she is pretty light. The sand was great for building sand castles, and there were
shells and rocks to collect. The weather was warm enough for the kids to wade in the water, but that did NOT include
me!! I get my feet a bit wet, and within about 3 minutes, my toes are numb. I sure don't understand how the kids stay
in so long, LOL. This picture was taken in August of 2007. AND Faith, Joy, and Layke are now over 18, and have
their own places. I have never had my youngest child at 9 years old...I've always had at least one child under 3. It is
kind of nice, especially since I am now homeschooling Jessiah, who is 9.
Sierra and her husband, Reed, gave birth to an absolutely darling, gorgeous little boy in 2007.
His name is Waylon. He weighed 6 pounds 10 ounces, and was 18 1/2 inches long. He is soooo
cute. They now have a 2nd child, my darling grand-daughter, Lucy (named after her
Great-Grandma Lucille), born in 2010. Sierra was born in Viet Nam, leaving VN right
at the end of the war. Her story of her life is amazing: from starvation, to a Master's Degree
in Education, to a teacher and mom of two beautiful children, and wife to a fantastic man,
October 27, 2009
So much has happened, some good, and often I ask the Lord, "Why? I really don't
need to learn more. Can't I just have a rest from all this learning thing?" I am
learning to answer it myself with: "Why am I so blessed."
At the beginning of the year, I learned that my grand-daughter, Melissa, developed
seizures. After trips to the ER and doctor appointments, they were able to get her
on the best meds, and she is doing fine, but it was a scary experience.
For several months, one of our teen daughters started having more then the usual
teen, growing up problems. It was intensified about 100 times more then
normal...at least that is how it felt to all of us. I think that prenatal drug use by
birthmoms isn't totally understood, or recognized by women who are pregnant. Our
daughter was almost an A student, gifted at sports, loving (she would rub my feet
in the middle of the night when I was undergoing chemo for breast cancer), she was
delightful, full of love and joy. Then, it seemed to be the typical teenager who
"wants all the independence, but with none of the responsibility" type of thing.
I didn't recognize that things were going to get very serious until my teen "jumped
on the van." Literally, she blew up, yelled, screamed, swore, and as I was trying to
get the other kids in the big van to get them away from the "tantrum," she climbed
on the van, jumped up and down, yelled, etc. The kids were crying and so scared.
She just laughed. The little kids, especially, could not understand how their beloved
sister could be so "mean" and angry. They, then had to deal with "I love her" and "I
hate what she is doing," to "Why does she do that? I just want to go to sleep in my
bed and not have her so mad." That was said by our 4 year old.
Medication was prescribed, counseling started, but things just kept getting worse
and worse. I was worried sick about her. Finally, I had to get the police involved. It
seemed that there was nothing more we could do. I learned that the saying, "Love
is not enough," was completely true. It was extra hard, because my beloved
husband, Don, is not able to be here to help mild (Early Onset Dementia). I am now
a mom, parenting as a solo parent.
By the way, our daughter is doing much better. The Probation Officer is fantastic
and has worked hard to be firm with our daughter, and helped her to see things
realistically. The PO has also been firm with me, teaching me that I must become
less of a softy parent, LOL. But it is true!!
Then, sometime in May, something happened to me. I say something, because I
have no memory, I guess it is called amnesia. It was due to "stress induced
seizures." Luckily, medication quickly controlled it, and I haven't had any more for
months. But, during that time, I was advised not to drive. That was AWFUL!!! There
was so much help from our church, Emerald Bible Fellowship, neighbors, friends, and
family, that I made it through. When I found out I could drive (yesterday), I was
like a kid who had just gotten their license...I was almost giggly, well, I actually
was giggly, LOL.
Okay, that should be enough, but about a month ago our little 8 year old daughter
had a seizure. We called an ambulance, and they started her on meds. An EEG was
given, and she had a seizure right during the EEG. That was good, because it make
the diagnosis much easier. She is now on a high dose, and hasn't had such a big
seizure since then. But, an MRI showed that she probably has had tiny ones since
birth...a direct result of prenatal drug abuse by birthmom. A preventable disability.
It makes me so angry to think that a birth mom could be that hooked on drugs, to
knowingly do damage to her precious, unborn child.
Well, everything else is doing fine. I have been able to pay off all bills, including
both vans, and all credit cards. There still are a few of Don's medical bills that will
take 15 years to pay off, but the billers/doctors, have allowed us to make small
payments, so that is good.
We want to thank everyone who has helped us in the past few months. There were
meals and rides provided through many people at Emerald Bible Fellowship. A
friend, who is an aide at an elementary school, has taken my kids to and from
school, Anne, my daughter, has taken time off work to drive me to doctor
appointments or babysat kids, my son, Darren, has spent a lot of time doing house
work, taking kids to soccer games, cleaned up the yard, etc. My daughter, Brooke and
her boyfriend spent several weeks, cleaning out rain gutters, going to the dump,
doing yard work, etc. My daughter, Lan, takes another kid to school each
morning. A neighbor literally jumped over our fence, to help babysit the kids while I
went in the ambulance with Edith (the one who had seizures. Someone just
dropped by a couple of boxes of apples yesterday. Another person fixed our van.
The list could just go on and on.
Well, I gotta finish this later, as I have to go pick up a child who is having a rough
time at school. He has Aspergers Syndrome, and...well, I gotta go. Pray for him, he
is a sweetheart, and has deep feelings of love, but also deep feelings of what he
feels are injustices.
What is this Website all about?
I am a mom and I will share with you experiences our Christian family has had, some
hilarious, some sad, but all real. Most of our children are adopted, so we hope to inspire
others to adopt...a child or two...maybe a child with handicaps, or older, or just plain
unique. Several of our children have handicaps, such as blindness, Cerebral Palsy, Downs
Syndrome, Amniotic Band Syndrome, Tuberous Sclerosis, etc.
The youngest at home is our 8 year old son, Jessiah. We have 4 other children under the
age of 18. My husband and I have been married for 48 years. Our oldest child is 50, is
married and has 7 children. It gets a bit complicated, at this point, and I still haven’t
figured out how to make a Family Tree of our family. It would definitely be a grafted tree.
Let’s see, 6 of our children (5 of them at home) WERE our grand-children, now are our
children. Four of our grand-children are siblings to the 5 younger ones at home. My
daughter adopted two of my grand-children and are 2 of the 4 siblings. The 5 at home,
and one more not at home, and 2 adopted by my oldest daughter, and 2 that were living
with the birth father of one of those two are ALL siblings! Yup, a sibling group of 10. That
will be several pages of experiences, LOL. Our children were born in Viet Nam, Korea, the
Phillipines, Brazil, India, and several US states.
My wonderful, loving
husband, David, and
of years ago. I am also a
Breast Cancer Survivor...of
over 10 years.
Faith joined our family when she
was only 9 months old. She is now
19 years old. Kids grow too fast.
She is now "on her own," hoping to
go to college to become a
veterinarian. She received her High
School diploma, and has two
Our home, on a beautiful acre of land, in Oregon. Lots of pictures
|Our Children Living at Home:
|Layke is now 18
years old, and a senior
in highschool. He came
home to us around 6
weeks of age. I was at
his birth, and even cut
the umbilical cord.
tahnya. is 41 years old,
married, and has a beautiful
daughter: my grand-daughter,
Tahnya. Khoki was born in
India, lives in Arkansas, and it
is so cute to hear her talk with
a southern accent.
Jessiah, 9 Edith, 12 Carlos, 15 McKenzie, 16 Layke, 17
Marie, 26 Marc, 33 Guinn, 33 Lucille, 36 Richard, 46
A video/slideshow of our family. Marie is singing a copyrighted song that she wrote. Do not copy,
reproduce, publish, etc. without her permission. he second song, wasn't supposed to be there, as the
music and voice don't line up...makes it sound like Marie can't sing a note on key, LOL. I have a much
better copy, somewhere...so stop the video at the end of the first song.
Mom's Ramblings was started as a journal,
which today called a blog. But, I didn't
keep it up...this is from 2007, LOL.
A Circle of Shoes